How to achieve any goal in 3 simple steps? Live the life you desire!

There are two kinds of people in this world. People with things happening to them or people who happen to do things. This might seem to be a shuffling of words, but there is a huge message in this reordering. How many times in your life have you waited for things to come your way, waited for destiny to shape your life and luck to play its game? It happens. But have you ever faced the brutal act of life when you worked hard and luck ditched you like your ex! Can you imagine what it must be like to see those who don’t work so hard and for some reason, things go their way? It can be deeply frustrating, disappointing, and disheartening to work hard and not see the fruit of your labor.
The above-given scenario might be your predicament or at least an experience we all go through in life. As a result, It puts us into a situation where we are forced to believe intuitively that things won’t happen because they are not destined to occur and this frame of thought evidentially controls our minds. The bitter fruitful reality is; success happens to those who happen to do things, to people who proactively control their minds, reshape their thinking and redesign their destiny. In simple words, success comes to those who reprogram their minds.
But before you reprogram your mind, you need to do two things first:

• Love yourself! It is important for you to understand that you are valuable and God made you the best of His creation. So you need to own yourself and love every bit that you possess.
• Believe in yourself! Just as God made you the best, He also gave you all those qualities that are required to be the best. So hang in there and explore them. Trust yourself that you can be anything and do everything in this world.

Bear in mind, you will have to remind yourself about the above two realities every time you fall, every time you find yourself lost and every time you wish to reprogram your mind.
The next easy thing is to eliminate all the passive words from your life and language. I can’t, should, would, must all be deleted. Reprogramming requires only one phrase. I WILL.  So yes, you will do it. You will do things and you will win!
Now see, how below three actions will take you ahead, change the way you think and help you control your mind:
Decide
We all make decisions, big, small, unimportant and crucial ones to have things in life. We cannot move ahead if we don’t decide what we are to do next. Successful people decide their own destiny; they make decisions every moment on what they want and how they want. So what do you want? What is it that you want from your life, what are your aspirations, goals, and targets? Where do you wish to see yourself?
The moment you are clear on your outcomes, you will notice a change in the way you do things. Clarity gives conformity and makes you powerful. During an argument, if you identify your outcomes, you might change your tone or words. During a meeting, if you know your outcomes, you might change your strategies. And this applies to your personal life as well. Your actions and behaviors change according to the outcomes you wish to achieve in a relationship. This decision-making process on what you want from life will help you focus on your goals. Automatically, you will see where you are going wrong and what right you need to do in life. The decision will give you direction.
So think! What is it that you want from life, now and in the future? Let the gones be gone and focus on what is yet to come.
Commit:
Prior to this reprogramming process, you already instilled love and belief in yourself. Now it is time for you to commit to yourself. Commit that no matter what happens you will do what you are meant to be doing. You will do what you wish to do, not letting others drive your life and others shape your destiny.
Are you fearful? Fear to be unsuccessful, rejected, humiliated? FEAR has two meanings, either you forget everything and run; which is forget your goals, outcomes, aims and just run away because you are afraid of people and their judgments, OR you face everything and rise. Rise above and create a legacy. So the decision is yours. Just like you decided what you want from life, the same way you will have to decide whether you want to overrule fear or let it live inside you.
Think about it. What if tomorrow doesn’t come? Or by tomorrow it is too late. Would you want to sit and say ‘someday’ or just get up and say ‘today’? In any case, until you try, you wouldn’t know if the plan works or not, if it doesn’t work, you may have to shuffle things here and there but what if it works in the first shot? You are on a roll! But commit to yourself that there is no stopping. Even if you start small, nothing can stop you from your goals.
Resolve:
You are now committed, passionate and high on goals, so here is the next step. Resolve!
Do a life analysis.  What have you been doing well, what went wrong so far and what can you do to make it better, to accomplish your goals? Once you have clarity on your actions, make a shift accordingly. Find solutions to problems; devise alternative routes to achieve your aims. But remember, controlling your mind does not give you conformity in achieving your goals. Plans may or may not work. Many internal and external factors can change the way things were not meant to be. And in such a case, you need to be flexible. Flexible to accept the fall and allow yourself to rise again, learn from your mistakes and move on. Fixed plans and fixed mindsets lead to nowhere. You need a growth mindset and a flexible plan to reach your dream destination.
This will be a long journey, from decisions to resolutions, you will have a success/failure ride on an emotional rollercoaster but if you are determined to succeed, you will enjoy it. But remember, failure is s an opportunity to learn and success a step to empower others.